What would your life look like if you lived it fully as the true *you*?

That’s one of the scariest questions for most men contending with sexual shame or trauma.

Because in your head, it might mean…

“I’ve missed my window.”

or

“How did I step into somebody else’s life?”

or

“If I was braver/stronger/younger/hotter/thinner/bigger/had more hair/all the things, then I’d be able to…”

You know there’s a part of you that’s longing to see the light of day. But, if you’re really honest, you worry that you’ve got too much baggage. Or you need more skills… or experience.

Here’s the truth:

You don’t need to unpack your baggage, take a class, or get X number of years of experience before you can start living that *you*.

You have to know what you want. And the way you do that is by getting in your body.

With Sex Coaching and Counseling, I help men get into their bodies so they can understand the desires of their spirits and the unmet needs in their lives. Through mentorship, surrogacy, and sponsoring one’s potential, I support you in getting clear on who you have always been — and how you can best translate yourself into your life going forward. And what your role is for yourself, for those you love, and the unfolding world we live in.

In our work together, we’ll honor all of your parts — body, mind, and soul. The parts of your personality you’ve put away for so long. The past *you*s and all that they’ve done and survived and become. We’ll grapple with old stories so you can come to know which ones to revisit – and which ones to release. And above all, we’ll undertake the holy and joyous task of looking at the whole *you* radiating out into the world.

Our world is desperate for queer male wisdom. It’s begging for you to know who you are as an individual, and as part of our communal essence. The ugliness, violence, and hatred is a vacuum crying out for us, for me, for you, as yourself. In celebrating yourself through our work, you’re not just helping yourself. You’re honoring those who came before, and those who will come after us. You’re perpetuating positive change throughout the world, because in becoming a better lover, you heal the world.

You can’t think your way into this. You can’t contingency plan it. You have to feel it.

And that means getting into your body.

It would be my honor to support you in that. Here’s how we do it:

All our work starts with a phone call. This allows me to get a good sense of how to best care for you, and allows you to know you’re safe with me.

On that call, we’ll set a date for our first encounter.

The content of each session will be tailored to meet your needs depending on your background and intention. I have a wide range of modalities at my disposal, 15+ years of experience in doing this work, and a deeply intuitive, strongly grounded sense of how I can meet someone where they’re at physically, mentally, and emotionally – and I’ll bring it all to ensure you get exactly what you need out of each session, and our work together as a whole.

You’ll walk away having rooted down into your body, reconnected with your desires, gained clarity on what you need, and co-created a plan of action to get all the parts of what you need in life – on your own.

And, because this is the work of a lifetime, I’ll be there to support you as you implement it with a 30-minute follow-up call one month out from our work, and another six months out.

If you could benefit from an informed and intuitive guide who models intimacy and mentors sexual expression, I’d be honored to create a nonjudgmental and nurturing space for you to explore neglected issues, come to your own insights, and learn new skillsets.

You are unique, and I don’t use a one-size-fits-all approach.

I support men from all walks of life and with varying concerns, and will work with you in creating an intention and a timeline for accomplishing your goals.

• Learn about Sex Coaching and Counseling packages by phone.
• For in-person sessions, also view the Companionship and Erotic Mentoring section for an idea of what we can co-create together.

ALL RATES ARE LISTED HERE.